2018 has been a bit of a strange year, and it has flown past. There have been lots of changes and adventures in my personal and professional life, and here are the key take-home messages from my experiences this year.
It’s OK not to be OK
I have come to terms more with my mental health issues in 2018 and accepted that my diagnoses are part of me, but they do not define me. I understand that I require medication to manage my conditions and realised that there is nothing wrong with that.
With my experiences, I have been able to open up more about my mental health and realised that it just takes someone to say something to be able to help and support others going through similar things especially if you weren’t aware that they were going through these issues.
Don’t Waste Your Energy On Things You Can’t Change
There are always going to be things going on in your life that are outside or beyond your control. Don’t waste your time and energy on things that fit in these boxes. Refocus your energy on accepting things are outside of your control and on to things that you can change. Of course, this is much easier said than done, but sometimes no matter how hard you fight something it won’t alter the consequences. So learn to accept what you can’t change and focus on what you can.
Don’t Live To Work
When I left my job in April, it was very mixed feelings. It was a job I enjoyed, but things weren’t working out. With a complete career change, I ended up working in a completely different industry for a corporate company, and I found that my stress reduced significantly. I could go home and leave work at the office door. I found weight had lifted and I was much happier for it. If something isn’t working for you, only you have the power to change it.
When I first started Jeffers Adventures, I didn’t have a plan of what I wanted to achieve or where I wanted to take it. After speaking with a good friend of mine, she got me setting goals, whether it be weekly, monthly or yearly. They should be realistic and achievable, and I can honestly say that by setting myself goals, I now have more purpose and direction. Setting goals are still something that I am working on following through on, but it is a useful tool.
Take The Time For Self-Care
It can sometimes feel entirely selfish to take the time to look after yourself. It’s not. You are an important and valid human being, and you need to look after yourself. So if you want to have an extra long bubble bath, or go for a long walk on your own, do it. Only you know what self-care works for you, so treat yourself to some you time!
Finally – Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself!
It’s so easy to set targets of what you should have achieved in your life, comparing yourself to friends and the perfect Instagram feeds. You are doing a great job of living (its a tough and shitty job sometimes), and there are going to be good and positive times, so keep fighting the good fight.